Last week I gave you five simple steps to lose your marriage but didn’t talk specifically about how easy some of those steps can be. When I first wrote that post, social media was in its infancy – today, it seems to be a natural part of the way that we live our lives. In some ways that’s good, but it has also made it easier than ever to take those simple steps toward losing your marriage.
I said that Step 1 in losing your marriage was to be available and social media has made ‘being available’ easier than ever. Maybe it’s time to set some boundaries…Facebook, the largest player in social media, is said to be cited in 1 in 5 divorces – and, when it comes to online evidence, it’s the primary source of evidence in 2 out of 3 cases.
Does your spouse have your password?
If the first thought was about your privacy, you have a problem and need to sit down together – you’re already thinking in a way that begins the 5 step journey.
Private vs Public
Private mail on Facebook, DMs on twitter, and other private contacts should be saved for those friends you and your spouse have agreed on and should be kept to members of the same sex as much as possible.
Why are you typing?
It’s easy to be the star about what you are sharing, but honestly, there is no need to share every detail of your life (no one wants to know you are in the bathroom!). Facebook and Twitter are perfect for narcissist, why not share about things that are close to you – your kids, your hobby, your wife!
If you haven’t talked over the issues from last weeks step 1, why not?