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Why have a resource center?

In the back of our church’s sanctuary, near side door, live several row of bookshelves. Recently, we remodeled some of these shelves to become home to our Legacy Milestone resource center. Legacy Milestones is part of our church’s plan to partner with parents to help them disciple their children. The resource center is a place where parents, aunts, uncles and others that will be involved in this discipleship process can find books, CDs and other resources that will help them teach core competencies as families move from one milestone to the next.

But there is a bigger reason to have a resource center. An elephant sized reason.

Actually, it’s more to do with the rider of the elephant than the actual elephant.
In their book Switch, Chip and Dan Heath write about change, specifically, the things that make it hard for us to change our habits.

Chip and Dan use the analogy of a rider, and elephant and a path to describe the elements of choice. The rider is our logic, the elephant our emotions, and the path is, more or less, the environment. So, your rider is the one that wakes you up and encourages that early morning run, but the elephant is what keeps you in bed wanting to stay comfortable. An example of changing the path to help you get up would be to put the alarm clock across the room. One of the first things to grasp is that the rider has control over the elephant, but the elephant is MUCH bigger and can also do what it wants.
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What if?

What if what you do is the thing that you son/grandson, daughter/granddaughter takes their cue from?

What if you are the role model for how they treat their future spouse?

What of you are the role model for how they deal with your grandchildren?

What if you are the model for how they respond to crisis in life?

What if they take their cue from you for

  • how they view money?
  • how they respond to the call of God?
  • how they deal with temptation?

Chances are, you are.

Implications of the Marriage Picture

Two weeks ago I talked about how our marriages reflected the Gospel, specifically Christ headship over the church and the church’s submission to that headship. I ended by mentioning that this reflection – this echo – paints a picture that can preach to our children. In fact, I believe our marriages have 3 audiences.

God

The first audience is the one that created marriage. God uses our marriage to teach us about Him, about love, about ourselves. In a way, I suppose that makes us the audience.

Our Children

I think this is where our marriages really shine (or shadow) the gospel. Knowing that our marriage reflects the relationship of Christ and his church, we, as husband and wife, can reflect one of two ways:
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The Value of Family

This coming weekend I have the privilege of preaching in the main service at church. I’ll be exploring why family is important, not only in light of our home life, but why it’s important to the Church at large.
Basically, it boils down to the gospel.
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Mercy and Grace

One of my biggest pet peeves is lying. It’s one of the fastest ways to break a relationship and I can’t stand when my children do it to me…but my point isn’t about lying, that’s just a setup to help you better understand this story:

One of my boys developed a habit of lying…some were pretty small, some were a decent size – they all needed to go. To help him understand the pain that lying caused and how he is breaking our relationship we eventually got to the point where punishment for lying was a spank.

We talked about how lying breaks trust and that I wanted to be able to trust him. It wasn’t just a surface level talk, it was one of those moment when, as a parent, you walk away feeling that you’ve made progress. He seemed repentant, he said he didn’t want to continue lying and wanted my trust. At the end of the talk, I told him I was willing to forget all his past lies – the slate was clean and he had my full trust.
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