Tag Archive - honor

The Man Code

June 18, 2013 in Family with 0 Comments

Rule # 56: No Talking…

There are certain rules that men live by. If you are not a man you can probably google various list from humorous to realistic to perverted. If you are, you already know many of them (like leave an open urinal between you and the next guy.)

This past Sunday, being Father’s Day, our pastor preached on 1 Cor. 16:13-14. The first time I heard a message on this passage was in 2008 when I was listening to another message by Francis Chan. During his message, Chan began to tell a story of attending chapel at seminary (much like he does at the 15 min mark in this video). He refers to a message by John MacAuthur (like this one) in which these verses were used:

“Be watchful, astand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
Let all that you do be done in love.”

While Chan focused on verse 13, our pastor also brought verse 14 in the mix and I think with good cause.
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Boundaries in Social Media

August 14, 2012 in Marriage with 0 Comments

Last week I gave you five simple steps to lose your marriage but didn’t talk specifically about how easy some of those steps can be. When I first wrote that post, social media was in its infancy – today, it seems to be a natural part of the way that we live our lives. In some ways that’s good, but it has also made it easier than ever to take those simple steps toward losing your marriage.

I said that Step 1 in losing your marriage was to be available and social media has made ‘being available’ easier than ever. Maybe it’s time to set some boundaries…Facebook, the largest player in social media, is said to be cited in 1 in 5 divorces – and, when it comes to online evidence, it’s the primary source of evidence in 2 out of 3 cases.
Limiting your online availability »

20 Years

May 22, 2012 in Marriage with 0 Comments

Twenty years ago I was eagerly anticipating getting off work so I could head to the airport. I would board a plane from California to Maryland and while I was in route, my niece would be standing in for me at my wedding rehearsal. I’d be married in the morning.

After being picked up from the airport and sleeping fitfully during the night, I arrived early at the church so I would be walked through the ceremony. My instructions were simple: Walk down there, and stand.

Easy enough, but during the ceremony I realized it wasn’t enough. We’d be moving off the platform to light the candle and then move back onto the platform to finish the ceremony – no one had told me what steps to use.

That tidbit symbolizes what I knew about being married. Just go there, sign the paper, say the words. But if that is all you do, one day you will realize that’s not enough.

Since that day I’ve made conscious effort to find ways to have the best marriage possible. Over the past 20 years I’ve learned way more than I ever expected about marriage, children, fertility, and a laundry list of other things – and I’m happy to have been blessed by my wife.
What I’ve learned over 20 years »

A Future Father-in-Law’s Thoughts

April 24, 2012 in Family, Marriage with 1 Comment

I might be praying regularly for your daughter.

God willing, some day my boys will want to marry and I am praying regularly for that little girl and for her parents. If you have a daughter, I hope that you’ll take a few moments to look at the requirements to date Jared’s daughter and make some decisions for the sake of your little girl.

I have two boys and as I go shopping for clothes or think about the potentials of dating, I’m glad I don’t have girls. Dads that have girls have a bigger job when it comes to protecting their children. That’s why I want you to make a list like Jared’s – before they are teenagers. I also want you to know that I am doing my part to raise sons that will meet these expectations.

Here’s some things, numbered only to keep track of comments, I’m doing to prepare them to lead your daughter:
My preparation list »

Submission: Easier Said than Done

March 6, 2012 in Marriage with 0 Comments

I’ve been sharing my thoughts on Family Leadership for a few weeks and it is time to wrap up this series. Before doing so, I think it is important to note that we are fallen and following scripture isn’t always easy.
Two questions usually come up from this type of discussion and both have to do with the idea of mutual submission and leadership.

The Tension of Submission »

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He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently. Proverbs 13:24