Tag Archive - love

The Man Code

June 18, 2013 in Family with 0 Comments

Rule # 56: No Talking…

There are certain rules that men live by. If you are not a man you can probably google various list from humorous to realistic to perverted. If you are, you already know many of them (like leave an open urinal between you and the next guy.)

This past Sunday, being Father’s Day, our pastor preached on 1 Cor. 16:13-14. The first time I heard a message on this passage was in 2008 when I was listening to another message by Francis Chan. During his message, Chan began to tell a story of attending chapel at seminary (much like he does at the 15 min mark in this video). He refers to a message by John MacAuthur (like this one) in which these verses were used:

“Be watchful, astand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong.
Let all that you do be done in love.”

While Chan focused on verse 13, our pastor also brought verse 14 in the mix and I think with good cause.
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Implications of the Marriage Picture

April 2, 2013 in Family, Marriage with 0 Comments

Two weeks ago I talked about how our marriages reflected the Gospel, specifically Christ headship over the church and the church’s submission to that headship. I ended by mentioning that this reflection – this echo – paints a picture that can preach to our children. In fact, I believe our marriages have 3 audiences.

God

The first audience is the one that created marriage. God uses our marriage to teach us about Him, about love, about ourselves. In a way, I suppose that makes us the audience.

Our Children

I think this is where our marriages really shine (or shadow) the gospel. Knowing that our marriage reflects the relationship of Christ and his church, we, as husband and wife, can reflect one of two ways:
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Submission: Easier Said than Done

March 6, 2012 in Marriage with 0 Comments

I’ve been sharing my thoughts on Family Leadership for a few weeks and it is time to wrap up this series. Before doing so, I think it is important to note that we are fallen and following scripture isn’t always easy.
Two questions usually come up from this type of discussion and both have to do with the idea of mutual submission and leadership.

The Tension of Submission »

Meeting Needs

February 28, 2012 in Family, Marriage with 1 Comment

A few weeks ago as I talked about the core issues in family leadership I mentioned that there were deep needs in each spouse that need to be met as we try to live out the biblical relationship of husband and wife. At times, our words can be the same but have vastly different meanings…

Companionship
Husbands need someone to do recreational things with. When the wife can fill this role, the relationship will grow. Wives, too, need companionship but for them it’s not recreational, it’s relational. This means husbands need to listen. Listen not simply with the thought of how do I help but more with the thought of finding out more about who your wife is and what makes her tick.
Meet the other needs…

Submission

February 14, 2012 in Marriage with 0 Comments

Last week I said that the key key response from a wife to a husband should be submission. I expected that there would be some pushback on that idea because submission is something that is commonly misunderstood. Let me push the envelop just a bit further and say that in order for a husband to lead and protect, he needs a wife that is willing to follow and give aid. She cannot compete with him – if she is competing or criticizing his every move, he will lose heart and being to grow passive.
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He who withholds his rod hates his son, But he who loves him disciplines him diligently. Proverbs 13:24