Last week as I talked about discovering your family identity I mentioned that Teri and I make it a priority to spend time with each other – apart from our children – every day.
When you’re young, it’s easy. Kids are younger so they go to sleep earlier, you’re younger so you stay up a little later, and your marriage is young so you want to spend time with each other. As the years tick by, it’s easy for these things to eat away at the connection you have with your spouse.
You’re aging and you get tired easier. It’s natural, but it also means you need to get more intentional.
As kids move into the teen years, they want to stay up later. It’s natural – but they need sleep just as much as your relationship needs time alone. Send them to bed.
And, as your marriage ages, you can begin to take advantage of opportunities that do not involve your spouse. Good things: fishing, golf, yoga, whatever…it’s good to spend some time doing things you like – but not at the cost of your relationship. Couples tend to begin to disconnect emotionally as well – spending time in the same room, disconnected.
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